Happy Is as Happy Does

There was an interesting article in Sunday's paper asking questions that would help you see if you know how to be happy. Everyone claims they want to be happy, but often, we are actually thwarting our own happiness in simple ways. Do cheerful people generally a) do only activities they enjoy b) look for little ways to boost their mood during the day or c) don't give happiness much thought? The answer is (c). The pursuit of happiness can actually backfire, say experts at the University of Denver. People who place a high value on happiness have, on average, 17 more symptoms of depression than those who don't. Constantly searching and seeking to achieve happiness may actually find us further from it, rather than closer.
My husband is an example of someone who lives his life, good or bad, easy or difficult, and, when asked, would probably say he is pretty happy with all of it. Oh, it has been far from perfect. Frustration and disappointment are part of life's package, but he doesn't dwell on any of it too long. He just keeps going and expects each day to be a good one. He doesn't pursue happiness. He is just smart enough to recognize it is there for the taking.
You'd think after 40+ years of being together, I'd have picked up that lesson from him. Still working on it....