I've been MIA from this blog for the last year for good reason. November 2021, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. 2022 was a difficult year to say the least. However, I like to believe that good comes from bad. I took last year to write a book about my journey. It is honest, sad and funny all at the same time. I am proud to say it is on Amazon. You can find it by searching my name: Susan Svoboda or the title:
Monday, February 6, 2023
I've been MIA from this blog for the last year for good reason. November 2021, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. 2022 was a difficult year to say the least. However, I like to believe that good comes from bad. I took last year to write a book about my journey. It is honest, sad and funny all at the same time. I am proud to say it is on Amazon. You can find it by searching my name: Susan Svoboda or the title:
Saturday, March 26, 2022
Sunsets
While
on a weeklong driving vacation, I told my husband that one of my goals was to
capture a sunset photo each night. While this may sound easy, I mean after all,
they happen every day, it proved to be a challenge. The photos above are the
result of our efforts. Sometimes we stopped in a crazy spot on the side of the
road, risking life and limb to grab the photo. Other nights we were lucky
enough to just be where it was beautiful and an easy shot. Each one is different
and yet similar. I’m not sure what the magic in a sunset is, but I am sure that
each contains that magic. The beauty of the colors is part of it, but I think it
contains so much hope and joy. Even if the day was not all good, ending it with
a sunset proves that there is goodness in each day. The trick is to stop and notice
it. Isn’t that true of so many things in our lives? Stopping and noticing is
the key to finding joy.
Stop. Notice. Appreciate. Repeat.
Thursday, March 10, 2022
Tales from the Fourth Grade
When I
was about to enter the 4th grade, my parents received word that I
had been accepted at Holy Family Catholic School in Orange. You would have
thought it was Harvard by their overjoyed reaction! Up until that point, I had
been a public school girl. Now the Sisters of St. Joseph would be looking out
for my education as well as my spiritual growth.
Sister
John of the Cross was my 4th grade teacher. I will never forget her!
She was about four feet tall and four feet wide! What she lacked in stature, she more than made
up with her stern scowls and cross words. Strict discipline was her primary
lesson every day. The ruler she carried around also added to her commanding presence.
I was so afraid of her, I worried I might pee my pants as she approached my row
of desks. Back in those days, a Catholic school classroom had about 45 – 55 students.
It seemed the only way to contain that many kids was with this strict
discipline, occasional threats and that darn ruler.
Every
morning, there were four math problems on the board that we were to solve as
soon as we took our seats. Then, one unlucky student was selected to approach
the board and solve all the problems in front of the class. This one morning,
she called upon Thomas G. I actually remember his last name, but I’m protecting
the guilty! Now we all knew that Thomas G. was the dumbest kid in our class. It
wasn’t meant to be mean, it was just something we all knew. When he went up to
the board, we all held our breath wondering what was about to come next. Thomas
just stood there, like a statue. He didn’t even try to solve any of the math
problems. Sister waited as long as her impatience would allow, then slowly
approached Thomas. When she reached him, she said. “I’m going to knock your
left eye into your right ear!” Of course she didn’t follow through on this
threat but to this day, I can hear those menacing words and feel how very
frightened I was.
Fast
forward two decades and my husband and I did what was called Marriage
Encounter. It was a weekend of intense learning how to communicate with each
other, share feelings, etc. It was held on the grounds of the Sisters of St.
Joseph campus in Orange. After the first evening, as we were leaving to go to our
rooms, there was a paper posted on the door of the meeting room. It was a list
of every couple attending and the name of the sister who would be praying for
them the entire weekend. As a scanned the list and found our names, guess who
was the nun praying for us?! Sister John of the Cross!! I couldn’t believe this
and had to explain to my husband the terror I felt during the fourth grade in
her class. What were the chances that this particular nun would be praying for
us??!! I shook my head in disbelief.
Walking
across the campus the next morning to breakfast, there was a nun coming towards
us driving a little scooter. Lo and behold, it was none other than Sister John
of the Cross! You can’t make this up! It felt like a movie script instead of my
real life. Sister wasn’t young when I was
ten years old and now she was downright feeble. She clearly drove the scooter
because she could no longer walk. I felt
compelled to stop her and explain that I was in her class many, many years ago
and now she was praying for my husband and me. That scary, stern woman was the
tiniest, sweetest little person who assured us we had already been in her
prayers and she would continue to pray for us. She even smiled! There was no
ruler in sight. I will never forget the
entire encounter.
Coincidence?
Maybe? I’d rather think it was God’s hand! Miracle moments occur in our lives
all the time. We just need to notice them.
Sunday, March 6, 2022
Spring
I need to look no further than the orange tree in my backyard to be reminded that spring is on its way. The tree is covered in white sweet smelling blossoms that will soon be oranges. After what feels like a long winter (it’s lasted two years, right?!), there is hope for the change of season and longer, sunny days to be outside. Spring is also a time when people talk about “spring cleaning”. While it is usually used in reference to clearing closets of clutter and putting an extra shine on parts of the house that we may have neglected, I’d like to also think about our own personal spring cleaning.
What do we need to get rid of? Anger? Hurt? Disappointment? The longer we
live, the more likely these things have entered our lives and given us pause to
wonder about the true nature of people. Yes, people hurt each other. It happens
to everyone. It leaves its mark on our heart and, often, that mark runs deep. Sometimes
we hurt each other consciously and other times, unknowingly. Either way, the
damage is done. The trick, I think, is to not let these hurts and
disappointments be in the center stage of our mind. Sure, examine them, feel
them and then move on. Give them a small compartment in your head but not all
of it. It’s been proven over and over, the thoughts we have now can control our
future thoughts. Rather than seeing the bad, seeing the good opens up the
possibility of more good entering our thoughts and our lives. Bad breeds bad.
Good breeds good. It’s that simple and yet that difficult. Nobody wishes for a
life of hurt and misery and yet, many of us have a life built on those things
rather than joy and love.
So grab your mop and Pine Sol and start doing some spring cleaning. And
while you’re at it, allow your mind to get a good spring cleaning as well. Both
will make your life less burdened and give it a much needed shine.
Happy spring ~ in our houses, in our hearts and in our minds!
Biggsuzi
Friday, February 25, 2022
We Need to Talk
I’m pretty sure I know four
words that strike fear in most men. "We
need to talk!" From my experience, it immediately causes them to think
about heading outside to that “project” they’ve been meaning to do. They are
suddenly on high alert and very wary about what comes next!
A friend and I were discussing
men and their feelings the other day. We both have been married a long time and
we think we’ve come to know our spouses well. Feelings are not a top priority
with our mates, discussing them even less so. I have decided men’s feelings are
one of three things: hungry, horny or tired. Beyond these three feelings, they
are caught off guard and on guard to what comes next in the
discussion when we start it with those four words. I mean, we have never
started a discussion with “We need to talk. What would you like for dinner? We
need to talk. Let’s head to the bedroom. We need to talk. You look really
tired.” See? Those four little words alert them that something big and deep is
probably coming next! Warning! Warning!
Now I know it is not fair to draw a sweeping generality about this. There
may be some very sensitive men out there who LOVE to discuss their feelings, I
just don’t know them! No judgement, just observation. I think it’s mainly
because men do not want to hash and rehash situations or problems. They are
programed to solve the problem, not dwell on it. They are raised to fix things,
not delve into how the problem makes them feel. They like to project confidence
and strength and this is also a reason we love them. However, women often don’t
want a solution, they want to dissect and study and probe the problem. This is
like speaking a foreign language to men. This is why we have girlfriends!!
Girlfriends speak the same language as us. They don’t mind a good dissection of
a situation. They let us wallow a bit and usually help us help ourselves to
find the solution. And even if we don’t find the solution, we usually feel
better afterwards just by having the discussion.
None of this is meant to be a slight on our men. It is meant to help us
all realize that they mean well, they love us and really do want to help us
find the solution. Just don’t ask then how they feel about it! Remember, the
only answers are hungry, horny or tired!!
How does that make you feel?!
Tuesday, February 22, 2022
Bruises
Train has a song called “Bruises” that says:
“These bruises make for better conversation
Loses the vibe that separates
It's good to let you in again
You're not alone in how you've been
Everybody loses
We all got bruises”
Listening to it today (again) made me think about what defines us. We are all a product of our experiences. This includes both good and bad, wins and losses. What makes some people live in the past, blaming their parents, their old bosses, their old partners for their current state of being? When do we say, “Enough!” and own our own stuff? Yes, we’ve all got bruises. It’s part of life. We have had experiences in the past that may have left us sad, lonely or confused. We have also had experiences that left us feeling joy, wonder and satisfied and, even for a while, with the thought that all is right in the world.
How do we keep the negative roar down to a minimum so we can experience the quiet calm of peace? For me, I know the negative tapes run so much louder in my head than the positive ones. When the ugly “I can’ts” or “I’m nots” creep into my thoughts, I literally need to say to myself, “Stop.” It takes conscious effort to replace these thoughts with more positive ones. I really like “I will have a good day today because I am ready for a good day.” Hokey? Maybe, but words are powerful and thoughts even more powerful. We attract what we think. It’s been proven over and over by people much smarter than me. When we appreciate something, we are willing the universe to please give us more! Recognizing when we fall back into old habits and negative thoughts, we have the power to change the tape running in our head and replace it with positive ones. Like any behavior we want to change, it takes time and practice.
Hey,
we all got bruises.
Monday, February 14, 2022
Passion
You may think this is a post
about running, but it is not. It’s a post about passion. Recently, I was
sidelined from running for four weeks. After getting back to it this last week,
I realized it is more than about fitness and health for me. It is a passion I
have discovered in myself very late in life. I never ran at all until I was 55
years old. Many people claim they would only run if someone were chasing them! They
think it sounds like a terrible kind of torture. It’s not for everyone. For me,
it is a time of reflection, prayer and peace. I have time to thank God for my
blessings and beseech Him for many other things. I pray for the health of my family
and friends. I pray that my grandkids make good decisions in their teen years.
I pray for a softer heart and a kinder voice for myself. The list goes on and
on. I am in the outdoors (I hate my
treadmill) smelling the air, seeing what’s going on in my neighborhood and
staying alert so I don’t get hit by a car! Some days it is harder to get out
the door than others, but I find on those days, the feeling at the end of the
run is even more euphoric. Running has helped me lose weight, enhanced my
mental health and proved to myself that I can do so much more than I think I
can.
I am here to challenge you to
figure out what’s YOUR passion. Passion, by definition, is described as a
powerful or compelling emotion or feeling. Your passion could be crafting,
volunteering, travel adventures, reading, knitting, bird watching and more. If
you are stumped about what your passion might be, ask yourself these questions.
In the last week, what gave me joy? What made me smile? What did I do and
thought, “I wish I had more time to do this." Your passion is just that, yours!
It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks (crazy old lady runner!), it matters
what YOU think. I’m very sure passion comes from the heart and not the head. It
requires a bit of curiosity and being a little brave to try something you hadn’t
considered before now. I remember over a decade ago, asking myself, “Could I
run a 5K?” I’m honestly not even sure where that notion came from, but I’m glad
I allowed myself to step outside the box and find out. It has brought me so
much joy over the years. I have set goals and achieved them. I have been to
nine different states for a run and seen unforgettable sunrises. I have witnessed
people helping other people over 13.1 miles that made me continue to have faith
in the goodness of the human spirit. It’s given me a boatload of cool medals as
proof of my accomplishments. All this because I decided to try something new!
So, what’s your passion? Give
yourself permission to be curious and seek the answer. Many people ask, “What’s
my purpose? Is this all there is to life? Can there be more?” Finding your
passion leads to finding the answers. Finding the answers leads to joy and
contentment. Sounds good to me!